Marriage, established _______ , came to a slow, painful death by lack of care and mutual respect. While family, friends and marriage itself hoped for a fulfilling future, it was not meant to be. It was discovered that marriage does not usually die, but is killed by neglect, lack of communication, abuse, lies and disrespect.
Marriage is survived by children, Healing and About Time. Also parents-in-law Told You So and You Should Do Better Than We Did. Marriage was preceded in death by Years of Counseling and Advice.
Marriage fell in love with Potential. Marriage recognized too late that bringing 50/50 is not enough. Bringing our best selves 100/100 is essential. When standing at the altar marriage did not see far enough ahead to family members illnesses, miscarriage, addition of children, bankruptcy, and deaths of family and pets.
When I do, became I can't anymore. Sometimes the I Do when marriage needed to learn I won't. That for better or worse does not mean better until it gets made worse. In sickness and health, does not mean starting out healthy, but making each other unhealthy. Staying poorer when richer was an option. Richer and poorer is not just financial. When the tying of the knot became the knot of an ever tightening noose.
When anniversaries became “x” and counting (which was usually to 10 to avoid saying something that might be regretted).
It is hoped that this marriage will rest in the peace that had become in short supply throughout its lifetime.
There will be no public memorial or celebration of occasion as unlike the original public ceremony the end of marriage is much less acknowledged. Memorial contributions may be made to premarital counseling and the asking and answering of the hard questions.
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