I honestly thought I had posted this before, but apparently I posted on FaceBook without further expanding the thought process.
In parenting (and other relationships as well) one thing that has helped is to remember: Q.T.I.P. (Quit Taking It
Personally). Easier
to say then to do....especially if your kid (or us) is an over-reactor!
Q.T.I.P. sounds
easy, but when the kid pushes your buttons...it is so hard to remember.
However, it can help remove some of the tension in the house. People
handle bad days differently. When he/she comes home...might not be the
best time to ask how the day was. Sometimes when they're angry? It has
nothing to do with us. Just like sometimes when we're angry? It has
nothing to do with them.
Everyone always said, "Enjoy it....they grow up SO
fast." I didn't believe them. Our oldest will be 21. I should have believed them.
If you have little people
in your life, it is SO easy to get frustrated with behaviors. Do your
best to get past the behavior and love the kid underneath.Their blow ups
usually do not have a lot to do with you (parent)....you're just the
most convenient outlet.
Ask why? A LOT. You'll be surprised
what you'll find out. Their thinking process is usually MUCH different
than yours. Once it is put in their perspective, it kinda makes sense.
"Teach feelings" .....and don't forget your own. When all else fails, try to think back to why you wanted kids in the first place!
Mark 10 (NLT)
13 One
day some parents brought their children to Jesus so he could touch and
bless them. But the disciples scolded the parents for bothering him.
14 When Jesus saw what was happening, he was angry with his disciples. He said to them, “Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of God belongs to those who are like these children.
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